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Lets be real, losing weight, getting toned, getting ripped is all about science.  Its all about Melting the nasty fat covering your muscles.  Doing the Right Workouts and Eating the Right foods.  But we have a world full of cry babies.  We have a world full of of WEAK panzy ass people who want to play victim and act like its their BODY not responding.

So as always Im going to be REAL, Tell you the TRUE reasons why You're Not losing weight, not getting toned, not getting ripped like you want to be.  These are in no specific order

#1 You're a Closet Piggy.  Lets be real, Fat doesnt appear out of thin air.  You dont inhale oxygen and your ass explodes with cellulite.  Fat Only comes from OVERCONSUMPTION of food/Calories.  Most people who are trying to lose weight always try to ACT like they are doing everything perfect around their peers, they are saying no to certain foods, working out but just still arent losing weight.  Then complain that "I just cant lose weight".  But the REAL reason is because as soon as the door closes and noone is around they are STUFFING THEIR FN FACE with junk!   You cant lose weight because you're stuffing your face with bread, fast food, Cupcakes and cookies!  You cant lose weight because you're sneaking to the fast food joint for lunch.  You know who you are!  You're a Closet Piggy!  And you're not fooling anyone, people dont believe your BS story, WE KNOW you're a LIAR and in Denial.  It takes alot of Calories to maintain being fat, and even MORE to gain it.  So stop lying to yourself and the world its not making you Leaner.  So cut out the shit or stay fat and dont complain.  Learn to be more disciplined.

#2 You're in denial.  Along with the first reason I just explained, you're in denial about how AWFUL you really eat.  You think "Im doing better.  Its not that bad. One bite didnt hurt".  Well by the muffin top staring you in the mirror it obviously ISNT good enough, It IS that bad and Those multiple bites ARE hurting you.  You eat way worse than you think you do.  If you actually tracked what you ate in a food journal or on the MyFitnessPal app you would see just how bad.  You forgot about that box of doughnuts you had in the breakroom yesterday, or that pizza you just woofed down for lunch.  You're in denial.  Your Fat is YOUR FAULT.  Noone elses but yours.  And if you ever expect to get the Hot, Sexy, Fit body like the models/celebs you idolize, this denial and lack of personal responsibility has to STOP.  Get it together Sucka!

#3 You're not portioning.  It doesnt matter if you're eating Froot loops or Brown rice, if you eat too much, more than your body is going to utilize its getting stored as fat.  If you're not measuring your portions, you're either going to be undereating or overeating(most likely) and both of these will Stall or prevent any results.  If you dont know how many Calories you're eating how do you know whether youre eating too much or not enough?  If you dont know how many grams of carbs, protein, fats you're eating how are you going to know what to adjust?  You NEED to know these #s.  You need to know HOW MUCH Fuel you're putting in your body and WHAT kind.  So Stop being a Lazy ass and weigh/measure your food.  It only takes a few seconds.

#4 You're not tracking.  In order to know the numbers i just spoke of above you need to track your food intake.  Tracking your food is very important and crucial to your success.  Studies have proven that people who track their food are 2x more successful than those who dont.  TWO TIMES!  Thats like losing 10lbs instead of 5, losing 20lbs instead of 10.  Wouldnt you like to double your results??!  Then stop being lazy and track your food!  Use the MyFitnessPal app or use ol pen and paper.

#5 You're not learning food.  Nutrition is a LIFE skill that needs to be mastered.  Dont rely on the premade, prepackaged, man made, deliver to your door BS.  To get the body and KEEP the body you HAVE to know how to cook, how to measure, how to feed yourself day in and day out.  Learn Food. Learn nutrition.  You should know off the top of your head how many calories 6 oz of salmon or 1/2 quinoa is.  You should know how to make your food more enjoyable by using herbs, spices, peppers, lemon etc.  Learn how to EAT.  Its the most important LIFE skill you need on a daily basis.  And you need to TEACH your Family/kids how to do this too.  So LEARN!

#6 You're being a wuss in your workouts.  Your body is ONLY going to change if you give it a reason to, and that means only if you bust its ass and force it to change.  You should seriously be sore in some form 24/7.  So put down your Fn Barbie weights and high rep BS and start actually challenging yourself.  I see you in the gym, most of you spending more time watching tv or talking or on your phone then actually working on improving your body.  Wear all black, and go in with a mission to bust your ass because its gonna be a Funeral for your FAT!   Stop fn around and DO WORK.

#7 You're wasting your time doing lame ass cardio.  Cardio is not how you get toned.  Cardio is not going to make you fit.  Dont believe me?  Go into your gym tonight and look at where all the fat people are, they are on the CARDIO.   Steady state cardio is reducing your metabolism, making you lose lean muscle,  raising your cortisol levels, aging you faster and wasting your time.  If you look around All the fit people are lifting weights!  The order of importance is Not Cardio, Weights, Diet like everyone thinks it is.  Its actually the EXACT opposite, Diet is #1, Weights are #2 and Cardio is LAST.  So why the Fuck are you wasting your time on something that is the LEAST important??!  Im gonna slap you!  Put down the Fn cookies and pickup some heavy ass dumbells/freeweights!  Stop doing boring ass cardio.  You only need short Insane HIIT cardio workouts.  Google it if you dont know what HIIT is.

#8 You're dehydrated.  The majority of your bodies functions including burning fat, NEED adequate amounts of water DAILY.  Most people are chronically dehydrated and dont even know it.  how do you know if you're dehydrated?  Simple, how often do you pee and what color is it?  If you're not pissing every 20mins at the latest and its not Clear/almost clear you're dehydrated.  Even being a couple % dehydrated completely shuts down your bodies ability to perform at is best and slows all functions of the body.   Yes, its as simple as slurping down some Fn H20.  The more you drink the better you feel, the better you perform, the better you flush toxins, the better you burn fat.   Drink at least 1 ounce for every lb of bodyweight.  so if you weigh 128lbs, drink at least 1 gallon of water a DAY.  Yes bitch, I said a DAY.  Drink!

#9 You're stressed out.  Today is full of high stress situations, work, kids, relationships etc.  And most of you use FOOD as your savior, your stress relief.  Which is WHY you're fat.  Know this, you are NOT going to find the answer to your stress though a plate of food.  If anything its only going to ADD to your stress because junk food is going to make you fat, give you brain fog, make you lethargic, make you moody and you're going to be disgusted when you look in the mirror.  Does that sound like its helping your stress?  I think not.  The BEST way to eliminate stress is WORKING out.  Working out Intensely creates the bodies own Morphine also known as Endorphins.  Working out literally makes you high.  Now doesnt that sound like a better option for stress?  I think so.  And it will help blast off your disgusting muffin top.  That sounds like a win- win to me.  So instead of drowning your stress in icecream, lace up your damn shoes and get your wobbly ass in the gym and lift some heavy weights.  Lace up your shoes and go run some hill sprints.  Use Fitness as your Stress relief.

#10 You have too much baggage.  Look if you're overweight, more than 20lbs overweight this isnt only because you're lazy and have a lack of self discipline.  I mean, it is, but theres a deeper issue.  When you're carrying a lot of fat and tend to always run to food for emotional relief thats your sign you have serious deep seeded issues.  Usually stemming from childhood or past relationships.  Your dad left you.  Your mom verbally abused you.  Your uncle sexually abused you.  You were picked on in school.  Your ex cheated.  etc.

You see, in order for our mind to fully process emotions it needs to go through up to 6 phases before it can let it go and move on.  YOU are probably still stuck in phases 1 or 2.  These issues although you may not feel them consciously are still lingering subconsciously and anytime you have any lil stressors in life you get overwhelmed and look for instant gratification which usually leads to foods high in Sugar/Flour.  The reason you run to these foods is because they actually have an addictive component and create a release of Dopamine in your brain just like Herione and Cocaine.   Yes, you're just like a drug addict except you use food as your high instead of dope.

But as you can see once again, you are NOT going to find the answer to your emotional issues through a plate of food.  Its only going to increase them because you're going to be even more upset and depressed because you're getting fatter.  Does that sound like your behavior is helping?  I think not!

So whats the answer?  You need to suck it up and stop avoiding the Elephant shitting in your living room.  You need to work on your INNER you and DEAL with these issues.  Otherwise you will be harboring these feelings until you die, and you will die young because this emotional stress is killing your health and setting you up for Cancer and Heart Disease.  And thats not even talking about the years you're pissing away living in a body that is fat and disgusting and keeping you from living the life you really want to be living.  So what sounds easier, taking some time to deal with your issues?  Or staying an emotional eater, fat, overweight, insecure, stressed out, and not living the high quality of life you REALLY want to be living?  I think any smart person will agree that dealing with the past is the easiest and best solution.

So how do you deal with the past?

Well its actually a lot EASIER than you think, it just takes a Pen, Paper, and privacy.  All you need to do is get these emotions OUT of your head, onto some paper and go through each one thoroughly.  There are actually 6 phases but im just going to tell you the first two because these are the most important that need to be released.  Anger and Pain.  And its as simple as this...

"It hurt me when...."  You fill in the blanks and write EVERY single thing that this person has done that has hurt you.  It may be 5 things or it may be 50.  The key is to keep writing until you cannot write anymore on this subject.  Even if it doesnt seem like a big deal write it.

"I am angry that....."  You fill in the blanks and write this for EVERY single thing you are angry about to the person who pissed you off.  It may be 10 things, or it may be 100

I actually have all 6 phases so for those that really need it, just email me and I will send it to you.  But you must first complete these two.

#11 Youre overdoing it.  Yes we all know that having Refeed Meals/Cheat meals are a necessary component to getting Lean.  But if you're doing it great mon-friday and showing up the same or even fatter on monday, thats your sign you're OVERDOING it.  That means you are eating WAY too much junk food and/or drinking too much alcohol.  Whats the point in busting your ass all week then blowing your results on the weekends.  Thats like running a race at record speed then stopping 100m from the finish line then turning and running the opposite way.  Sounds pretty stupid huh?  Thats exactly how stupid it is for you to be sabotaging all your hard work during the week on your binging weekends.  So instead of being an ignorant person and spinning your results tires in the mud, treat your weekend like a weekday.  Have your ONE refeed meal at a specified day and time and thats it!  You still need to prepare and measure your foods.  You still need to pack them with you for when you are going places.  Do NOT eat out more than 1x per week.  Even eating good choices at restaurants still have toxic, fat storing ingredients in them.  They are still going to disturb your hormonal balance and slow your results.  So be disciplined.  1x per week MAX.

If youre going to socialize follow the rule "If you're going to Eat dont drink.  If you're going to drink dont eat"  That means if you wanna have drinks then no eating junk for you.  Just eat some form of Lean Protein and Veggies and when you drink have straight shots or wine.  If you're going to Eat/have Cheat meal, no drinks for you.  No excuses.  You cant have both and get away with it.

So treat the weekends with respect, they take MORE discipline than the weekdays.  Think about it Friday -sunday is 42% of your week, if you lose control on those days thats almost half your week pissed away.  And its A LOT harder and take A LOT longer to burn fat and fix the damage then it is to just be disciplined and say no.  A bad weekend can set you back WEEKS.

So to be Fit, you must live like a Fit person lives.  Keep living like a fatty and youll continue to be one.  Fit dont spend their weekends binging on food and alcohol, they are still busting their asses in the gym and eating strategically.

So Do your weekends RIGHT.

So there you go, the REAL top 11 reasons why you're not losing weight.  Now if you look again at the top reasons what do you see is the common similarity?  Its mostly all DIET related.

You see I've been doing this almost 10 years, and one thing is common among 99.99% of people, they ALWAYS play Victim and Lack taking personal responsiblity for their failures and circumstances.  They want to point blame for their awful bodies by blaming having Kids, Im big boned, Its not in my family to be fit, Their Thyroid, Their parents were fat, They are too busy, Its the air, its the water, blah, blah blah.  Well guess what?  Your lame excuses arent making you Less Fat!  Your Excuses arent even Valid!

Here is the truth, you have one or a few of the reasons I listed above(11 real reasons), and you arent accepting personal responsibility.  It IS your fault.  Fat doesnt come from Breathing, it doesnt come from thin air, Fat doesnt come from eating vegetables, Fat comes from YOUR poor nutrition and your PURE laziness.  Laziness to learn, improve, to deal with your past, deal with stress effectively, set goals, cook, workout, plan and pack your meals, to measure portions, to push through the pain and hurt of your workouts.  You and ONLY you are to blame for your current body and your life.  Your past decisions have created your current LIFE.  So if you want a BETTER body and better LIFE, then YOU must take responsibility and DO THE WORK REQUIRED to get it.

There is no easy way.  There are no shortcuts.  Anyone saying 20minute abs, 20 minute but, 6 pack in 6 minutes is a FUCKING Liar.  Those people didnt get those bodies from doing that, they have spent countless days, weeks, months, years working on those bodies.  They have been eating the right foods, busting their asses in the gym day in and day out.  They have made this a LIFESTYLE, just as normal as waking up and brushing your teeth.  It is WHO they are.

So if you want to look and feel like these people feel, you must Do, Act, Behave, Eat, Train like these people do.  If it were easy EVERYONE would be in shape.  Its not easy, but is sure as fuck is worth it!

So if you want the body, you want to look HOT, you want to TURN heads, You want your partner to be staring at YOU,  you want to have tons of Energy, you want to feel Happy and Good, You want to Feel Confident and Secure with yourself, You want to look awesome in clothes, swimsuits and Naked, then YOU MUST DO THE WORK REQUIRED TO ACHIEVE IT.

Believe in the Process. Believe in Yourself.  Millions have done it before you and millions more will continue to.  You are in control.  Be the Victor not the victim.

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